Saturday, April 30, 2011

You're An Odd Little Human, Now Aren't You?

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First impressions are kind of a big deal, don't you think?  You almost always remember your first impression of someone, even if you had it horribly wrong you will remember what it was and laugh later.  I'm sure you can all think of someone who has had that impact on you where there was an instant connection or just someone who made you feel completely comfortable in the first round of meeting.  What is it about them?  Or is it all relative to the person?  The person I feel is this immediate kindred spirit, wouldn't go far with someone else?

I love asking friends later what their first impression of me was.  It's not necessarily always good, but I like to know so I can hopefully improve and become like those people I admire for their excellent first impressions.  And I'm not about wanting everyone to like me, because I know not everyone will or does.  I don't care for some people either.  So we're even.

This might come in handy! =)

First impressions, I have come to learn, are not always accurate.  It's funny now that some of my closest friends at the moment actually took some time to develop.  I knew some friends for awhile, but never really got to know them well until one day we realized something.

Hey, I don't have friends.

I don't have friends, either.

Why don't we be friends? 

That was the beginning of a beautiful friendship.  Why didn't we realize this sooner?

One of my good friends in Malaysia was there for months before we actually did anything together, based solely on our horrible first impressions of each other.  She thought I was a stuck up snob.  I thought she had an attitude.  I was influenced by what others thought and didn't really give her a chance. Months later, we went out for drinks and that was it.  We were inseparable everyday thereafter down to the day we flew back to the States.  We practically lived at her house.  It was a sad goodbye!  There again, we wasted such precious time.

I often wonder how many friendships I might be possibly overlooking just based on first impressions.  Yet, friendships are so hard to maintain and take so much time and effort.  Sometimes I feel like I don't even want to bother with it. We are all stuck in this Catch-22 of wanting and needing friends, but not having the time to cultivate them.  Or maybe that's just me.  Especially those ones that aren't essentially automatic.  At the same time, I'm not so desperate for friends that if I don't have fun at all or don't enjoy their company, I will do something just to be with people.  Ahh well.

I think moving around quite a bit has helped me be pretty comfortable with meeting new people.  I still have a lot to learn.  Maybe the next trip/move will help me fine tune it.  It's exciting to think of all the new friendships to be made.

What was/is your first impression of me?  Or what's your take on first impressions in general?


Lindsay said...

You already know I was like "wow, she is a talker". Ha.

One of my dearest friends thought I was stuck up when we first met and I thought the same of her. Turned out we both are uneasy and guarded when meeting new people. And it remains the same to this day, though my guard has dropped slightly, believe it or not.

Cydney said...

Many, manymany years ago, I was in a car group out in service at the Flowing Wells congregation with you. Do you remember? No? Well, maybe I should work on making a better first impression then, shan't I? What I don't have to work on is my most amazing memory. So there's that.

My first impression of you was that you were a little golden ray of sunshine! You were so happy and easy going, so naturally I thought briefly of kidnap.
But then I got hungry or something.

Taylor said...

Cyd, I'm so glad you commented. Of course, I remember that day so very long ago! I think that might be a slight exaggeration on your part, ray of sunshine? Don't know about that! But I thought you were pretty cool and it was pretty cool. (I got all Miley Cyrus Show on ya there) We both liked each other sooo much we never spoke again. How dumb of us! =)

Most of the time I remember when I meet people not always their names, but they never remember me so I've given up even mentioning it and getting the awkward "oh yeah??" and the I have no idea who this chick is looks.

Hooray, you remembered! That made my day! ;)

Cydney said...

Hooray! For once, someone remembered me! For the record, people forget me ALL. the TIME. How could they forget us? Puzzling.
And BAHAHA, that Myley Cyrus show is a keeper. I hope that when you come to Portland in July we CAN do something! It will be amazing, and everyone will stop and stare.

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